January 4, 2021
Toxic behavior doesn’t just inflict hurt; it damages well-being, prompting us to believe that it reflects how others see us.
In high school, I remember a social media platform that you can submit comments about someone anonymously. The user could log in and see what others have posted about them. I remember specifically a comment mentioning my physical appearance negatively. I automatically thought that is how everyone saw me. While I was going through therapy and working on my self-esteem, this was brought up eventually. My therapist shined a light on two things
1. One person’s opinion does not mean everyone thinks that way.
2. When people use words to bring us down, whether it is sheer thoughtlessness or pure malice, it reveals a lot more about them than any of the words they speak.
Not all behaviors that upset another person are equally harmful. Some hurts are easy to brush off. Other actions lead to deeper wounds and longer-lasting effects. For example, emotional abuse can damage not only the core of a relationship but can set a person up for long-standing struggles in life. As such, toxic behavior is anything that poisons a relationship and could limit another person’s growth.
Some examples of toxic behavior are:
So, how do we handle toxic behaviors from others?
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